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Yous, Mine & Ours

PaulKostro — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 21:24:08 +0000

Yous, Mine & Ours

When you are considering marriage, there are so many things to think about and discuss: assets, liabilities, earnings, in-kind contributions, child-rearing, chauffeur and other family services, home-maker; who is responsible for what; who owns what; who contributes what?

For one person’s experience, read: When Bankers Get Too Personal, by Nicole Collins, published in The New York Times.

Premarital mediation and a Pre-Nuptial Agreement may be helpful to some — if you agree, and you want to discuss this further, please call me for an appointment.

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Four financial issues that ought to be discussed before getting married

PaulKostro — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 16:11:20 +0000

Four financial issues that ought to be discussed before getting married (based on: Money Talks to Have Before Marriage, by RON LIEBER):

1. What are your individual “financial ancestries.” Discuss your personal pasts — how did your parents deal with money, how does that impact how you deal with it, and how might that impact your relationship?

2. Catalog your past mistakes and overall money habits — review your credit reports, and discuss the loan payments you may have missed and the credit cards you may not need. Discuss what you have learned (or still need to learn) about handling money.

3. Discuss who will pay the bills each month. If one person is making most or all of the money, discuss whether that person will get to make most or all of the financial decisions? Even under the best of circumstances, it may be a good idea, at a minimum, to hold regular household meetings, complete with spreadsheets and financial statements, so that the both persons are up to speed on the state of family finances.

4. Discuss how rich do we want to be one day? Discuss your individual career paths — are they going to be something that pull you together? If it is a possibility (or probability) in your lives, discuss whether you are both O.K. with one of you acting essentially as a single parent, with the other partner working 80 hours a week until the age of 80?

Mediation may be the most comfortable medium for preparing for marriage — a mediator can help both of you to explore the key financial issues that may be your greatest obstacles during marriage.

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Humor: When you marry, what exactly are you getting into?

PaulKostro — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 20:36:25 +0000

Humor: When you marry, what exactly are you getting into?

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Marriage and Domestic Violence — they shoud NOT go together

PaulKostro — Sat, 01 Aug 2009 14:38:04 +0000

Dance, enjoy, send good wishes
but, remember, sometimes domestic violence ruins it all
do something about it
talk about it; do NOT do it yourself; and
DONATE as you can:

[Click on the photo to see the video]

Read more about it HERE

[See how it goes 6-months later]

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